Baby Steps

Well, we just finished cutting, glueing, sticking, tying, and writing our invitations! We're pretty happy with them, and they will be heading out in the mail in the next couple of days. I guess it's official, we are getting hitched! I struggled with the wording a bit more than J did - i know i'm in denial that it's a wedding, but we've come to terms with it. One thought that J shared is that while we know deep down inside that it is indeed a wedding, we wanted to celebrate our relationship in a way that is inclusive, celebrates our community and represents us. In the last year, there has been a lot of debate about what marriage is, or who can and can't get married. Opponents of a more open and inclusive understanding of marriage have often attacked it in defence of what they call the 'traditional' definition of marriage. J always gets angry about this, because a look to history will reveal that this is not only a selective definition of the practice, but also one that tended to disempower women. We are celebrating a tradition of inclusion, compassion and love with our wedding that we hope will become more common. As you will see from this blog and the actual day, you don't have to wear a white dress, a veil, be owned or given away, or have a procession to make it a wedding. Everyone who is there knows why they're there (to celebrate us). I hope so, otherwise you're at the wrong party!

As you'll see from our invites, our 'colours' are blue and orange. They are our absolutely favourite colours so we're making the room nice and colourful. I'm wearing blue, the cake's blue, there will be orange flowers everywhere, and some nice hints of other colours. We're not shy when it comes to colour!